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Destitution

(hijab flutter ~ Yasmin Mogahed)

“I have nothing except but my destitution
To plead for me with You.
And in my poverty I put forward that destitution as my plea.
I have no power save to knock at Your door,
And if I be turned away, at what door shall I knock?
Or on whom shall I call, crying his name,
If Your generosity is refused to Your destitute one?
Far be it from Your generosity to drive the disobedient one to despair!
Generosity is more freehanded than that.
In lowly wretchedness I have come to Your door,
Knowing that degradation there finds help.
In full abandon I put my trust in You,
Stretching out my hands to You, a pleading beggar.”
- Sh. Abdul Qadirhas

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Surat Yusuf

Sheikh Muhammad an-Najdi said:

The brothers of Prophet Yusuf (as) wanted to kill him, but he didn’t die.

Then they wanted his memory to be erased from their lives, but Allah raised his station on earth.

Then he was sold in order to become a slave, but he became a Minister.
Then they wanted to erase his love from his father’s heart, but his father increased in his love and longing for his son.

So do not be upset when people plot against you, because the Will of God is over and above the will of man.

And when Yusuf (as) was in jail, he was the better one even by the testimony of those who shared the cell with him, as they said to him “indeed, we see you to be of those who do good.” But even though he was better than them, he remained in jail for longer. The first one was released and became a servant, the second one was executed. And yet when Yusuf (as) was released many years later, he became a Minister and was reunited with his family.

So if you ever feel that your dreams are delayed, and everyone else seems to be moving forward, just remember the example of Yusuf (as). Stay true to Allah and true to yourself and remember that “Allah does not cause to be lost the reward of those who do good.”

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Rely on None Other

“The Prophet saws said, ‘The people who have the most tribulation are the prophets, then those who are nearest to them, and then those who are nearest to them.’ A man will see tribulation to the extent that his iman and his yaqeen and deen are strong. The stronger someone’s religion is, the more tribulation that God will send to that individual. Behind that tribulation Allah swt is wanting him: 1) not to rely upon anything worldly; 2) so that he has increased reward in the next world. And this is why you’ll find if Allah swt loves someone, if they rely any time on anyone other than God, other than Allah, He’ll break that for them. And you’ll find that…you’ll rely upon your wealth, and Allah will take take that from you; that you’ll rely upon people and Allah swt will make them let you down; you’ll rely upon things other than Allah swt and Allah wants you in that, to only rely upon Him. He only wants your heart for Him swt. And when someone puts his heart in that state, where Allah swt is taking control over his affairs, that’s the essence of walayah… a wali, to have God be your protector. What is a wali? He’s one who Allah swt has taken over all of his affairs.”

- Shaykh Yahya Rhodus

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Strong Imaan

Courtesy of Mamu. :)

A strong woman works out everyday to keep her body in shape,
But a woman with strong Imaan prostrates in prayer to keep her soul in shape…

A strong woman isn’t afraid of anything,
But a woman with strong Imaan shows courage in the midst of fear…

A strong woman won’t let anyone get the best of her,
But a woman with strong Imaan gives the best of herself to everyone…

A strong woman makes mistakes and avoids making the same in the future,
But a woman with strong Imaan realises life’s ‘mistakes’ can also be Allah’s blessings and capitalises on them…

A strong woman walks sure footedly…
But a woman with strong Imaan has sabr (patience) when she falls…

A strong woman wears the look of confidence on her face,
But a woman with strong Imaan wears grace…

A strong woman strives to look beautiful and perfect,
But a woman with strong Imaan knows that she can possess nothing more attractive than the adornment of faith and the beauty of taqwa…

A strong woman has faith knowing she is strong enough for the journey,
But a woman with strong Imaan has faith that it is in the journey that she will become strong…

May Allah guide us and help us to be the women and men of strong Imaan, ameen.

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Differences Between Reputation, Personality, and Character

By Sh. Yasir Fazaga
Each and every one of us has three components: our reputation, our personality, and our character. Our reputation is what people think of us. We invest most of our efforts in perfecting our reputations. Why? The reason is that the effort is very little, and the reward is immediate. All we have to do is watch a politician around election time to understand the concept. To be seen by people as kind, they take pictures with an orphan child and, if this news makes the headlines, then they have reached success. To repeat the point, our reputation is what people think of us.
When it comes to your character, you are in full control. Nobody can ruin your character.
Our personality, on the other hand, is how we present ourselves to people. We spend money, time, and effort on improving our personality. For example, personality enhancement classes teach us how to enhance our smiles. The intention here is to sell an image of ourselves. We are showing people not who we really are, but how we want to be seen.
Then, there is our character, which is who we really are. To sum up the definitions, reputation is what people think of us, personality is what we seem to be, and character is who we really are. Most of us do not invest enough in character. We like to invest more on reputation and personality, but tend to neglect our character. Sadly, it is our character that truly defines us. If we have good character, then the other two may follow close behind.
Rewards of having good character may not be immediate. In fact, many times people with good character may go unnoticed. Oftentimes, good character may be a problem for an individual in this life. When everyone around you is a cheater, your goodness and honesty becomes a problem. We may say, ok, forget character then! But, wait! People can only ruin our reputation, but our character can only be ruined by us! When it comes to your character, you are in full control. Nobody can ruin your character. Your character is of your own making, your own choice. As you live life, you are the author of your own life. Reputation is the camouflage. Character is the real thing. Our investment must go into our character, and the rest may or may not come. Alhamdulillah if they do come.
The 6 C’s of Character
Islam is a set of beliefs that must manifest themselves in a set of rituals. These rituals must have an impact on the character of the individual. The character of the individual manifests itself when we deal with other people. Therefore, it is a circle that is made of six vital components that will be discussed shortly.
If one engages in excellent Ibadah (worship), but has terrible Ikhlaaq (manners, character), then the Ibadah will not make up for the deficiency in character. However, if one has excellent Ikhlaaq and decent Ibadah, the excellent Ikhlaaq may make up for the deficiency in Ibadah. We extract this teaching from the hadith of the Prophet (pbuh) in which he was informed about two women. One woman prayed, fasted, and performed all of her extra acts of worship, but she was extremely rude to her neighbors. The Prophet (pbuh) said that if she continues in this lifestyle, then her final abode would be the hellfire. The hadith then mentions another woman who did not pray or fast much, but only fulfilled her obligations in regards to people, like being kind to her neighbors. The Prophet (pbuh) said that if she continues in this lifestyle, then her final abode in the hereafter would be heaven.
It is not that the earth cannot cater to our needs, but the earth cannot cater to our greed. There are a lot of resources, but there is not enough compassion.
To underline this teaching, the Prophet (pbuh) said, “Those of you who will be closest to me on the Day of Judgment will be those who have the best ikhlaaq.” These teachings do not undermine the importance of worship, but do underline the importance of good character. The Prophet (pbuh) also said, “Inna ahadakum layoudriku darajata si`am al qaa`im,” which means, “Due to your good character, you can attain equal position with someone who is constantly praying at night and who is constantly fasting during the day.” If someone has good character, he said, he/she will be able to reach that rank.
What is Character?
It is said that our character is made up by our words, actions, and habits. Perhaps that is why the saying goes, “Watch your thoughts, as your thoughts become your words. Watch your words, as your words become your actions. Watch your actions, as your actions become your habits. Watch your habits, as your habits formulate your character, and your character becomes your destiny.”
The Prophet (pbuh) has warned us to control our thoughts as well. One may wonder as to how thoughts can be controlled. We are not able to control what comes into our minds, but we are able to control the thoughts we dwell on. Therefore, it is essential to be careful about which thoughts we choose to dwell on.
In order to control these thoughts, it is important to know what the essential components of having a good character are. The following are the six essential components, and they all start with the letter “C.”

Conscience

The first one is conscience or dhameer. The conscience is the innermost moral compass that Allah (SWT) has given us. It is by this internal moral compass that we (sometimes) are able to distinguish right from wrong. The Prophet (pbuh) has explained this beautifully. In one hadith, we are informed, “Al birru husnul khulooq,” which means, “Righteousness is about having good character.” He (pbuh) then said, “Wal ithmu”, (as for sin), ma haka fee sadrika wa khasheeta ay- ya-tali`a alayi Nas.” This translates as, “Sin is that which pricks into your heart, and you do not want it to be exposed to people.” Many times when our inner voice tries to stop us from committing sin, we ignore it. The next time it tries to do this, we are unable to hear it. It then comes to a point that we become de-synthesized and unaware of our inner voices.
If we have courage, then we have what it takes to bring about a change.
The Prophet (pbuh) said, “A believer is not the one who eats his fill when his neighbor is hungry” (Bukhari). The person who knows that his/her neighbor is going to bed with an empty belly and does not take action has a dead conscience. The Prophet (pbuh) would say that this person cannot really claim to be of the community of the believers.
It is incumbent on us to listen to our conscience. When we cannot sleep at night because something is bothering our conscience, then, at times like this, we must be our own policemen. Many times, we can be technically right but ethically wrong. If we have a living conscience, sin can be defined as something that pricks into the heart and what we would not want to expose to others. Usually, we try to hide things that we are ashamed of, so the Prophet (pbuh) said that the moment we feel this way, we must listen to our conscience.
Compassion
The second component of having good character is compassion. This is our ability to feel for others and with others. Today, the poverty and starvation we see in the world is not due to the lack of resources. At no time in the history of mankind was the food production as abundant as it is now. It is not that the earth cannot cater to our needs, but the earth cannot cater to our greed. There are a lot of resources, but there is not enough compassion. The three richest people in the world have more money than the 48 poorest countries in the world combined.
Those who are compassionate in this world, Allah (swt) will be compassionate towards them in the hereafter. It is easy to be compassionate to those who deserve compassion, like those who are sick, poor, or needy. However, real compassion occurs when it is least expected. Once, Ibn Umar (ra) went to the market, and someone picked his pocket. When people in the market realized that his money was stolen, they started to make duaa to destroy the person that robbed Ibn Umar (ra). At this moment, Ibn Umar (R) raised his hands and said, “Oh Allah, if this person took it because he was in need, Oh Allah, bless this money for him. Oh Allah, if he is a professional thief, Oh Allah, then make this one the last of his sins.” Now, that is compassion!
Another example of real compassion is the moment of the conquest of Makkah. After all of the evil things that the people of Makkah did to the Prophet (pbuh), and despite him having the power now, he chose to let everyone go free. Indeed, he was the most compassionate human being.
Having good character also means that you are able to feel for others. When the Prophet’s (pbuh) son died and he was crying, he said, “It is the mercy that Allah (SWT) places in the heart of the believers.” We are also reminded of the incident when the Prophet (pbuh) was kissing his young grandchildren Hassan and Hussain, and a bedouin said with arrogance, “I have ten children and I have not kissed a single one of them.” The Prophet (pbuh) said, “What can I do to you if mercy has been snatched away from your heart?” Muslims are to follow the example of the Prophet (pbuh) and be compassionate to everyone.
Consideration
We have discussed the conscience and compassion; now, we move onto consideration. What does it mean to be considerate? It means to be deliberate and to think before you speak in regards to the following questions: How are my actions and my words going to impact others? Is my behavior going to crush their spirits? Or is it going to please them? Therefore, being considerate is the ability to think before you take action.
The seerah again gives us the best examples in this regard. One day, the Prophet (pbuh) was sitting with his companions, and he told them that Ikrimah (the son of Abu Jahl, the worst enemy of Islam) is coming to accept Islam. The Prophet (pbuh) cautioned his companions to not mention anything ill about his father Abu Jahl. He said that cursing those who are dead only affects those who are alive as the dead cannot hear you. In other words, he told them to be considerate of Ikrimah’s feelings.
Being considerate means respecting the feelings of others. For example, the Prophet (pbuh) said that if there are three people present, then two people should not be whispering to one another. Why? The reason for this is that this behavior would hurt the third person who is present. The Prophet (pbuh) also said that when you lead people in salah, be considerate of them by shortening your prayers. The Prophet (pbuh) would be leading the prayers, and when he heard a child crying, the Prophet (pbuh) expedited the salah in a very noticeable way. When asked after the salah about why he was in such a hurry, he said, “I heard a child crying and I knew that his mother would want to attend to him. So, I wanted to finish the salah as soon as possible.”
Are we as considerate in our masajid today? What would we do if a child started crying in the salah? The parent would be told not to bring their children to the prayer. In Islam, we are urged to be sensitive; this covers all aspects of life. The Prophet (pbuh) said, addressing men, “Do not be like beasts when you have an intimate relationship with your wife and you have your own desires fulfilled, but you are so inconsiderate whether your wife has received the same fulfillment or not.” Intimacy is something that it supposed to be enjoyed by two people. There are some men who joke with their wives about getting a second wife, and they believe it is amusing. It is important to remember that if the other person is not laughing, then they do not believe it is funny. Be considerate to the feelings of your spouses.
Do we ever reflect on the fact that sometimes we make people hate the Sunnah or the Deen because of our actions? In the name of Islam, how can we be rude? In the name of Islam, how can we yell at people, demoralize people, crush the spirits of people? A Muslim is supposed to be considerate. In every way that we do things, it displays our character, like the way we drive or where we park our cars. Constantly, we are displaying our character. The Prophet (pbuh) would tell his companions to avoid eating garlic or onions before they plan on going to the Masjid. This is to make sure that our presence brings joy to others. Be considerate. Have a conscience. Be compassionate.
Courage
The fourth “C” is courage. Courage is about being able to stand up for what we believe in. It is about the ability to stand up for the principles and the values that we hold. An individual is a person of courage when he/she is challenged and stands up for beliefs, principles, and values. It may be noticed that whenever Prophet Musa (pbuh) is mentioned in the Quran, it is always in situations involving fear. His stick turned into a serpent so he was afraid to pick it up. He was told to go to Pharaoh and was afraid. Nevertheless, Prophet Musa (pbuh) was not a coward, because courage is not the absence of fear. Courage is doing what is right despite the existence of fear. Prophet Musa (pbuh) was afraid, but his fear did not stop him from doing what is right.
Courage is needed especially when we must challenge the social status quo. The Arabs did not allow women to inherit; it took social courage for the Prophet (pbuh) to come and address such an issue. People would say our forefathers never did this, but it took courage to speak the truth to the people in power. If we have courage, then we have what it takes to bring about a change.
Control
We must have a conscience, compassion, consideration, courage, and also control. A person of character is a person of control. It is the ability to control our desires and anger, the ability to control and be able to abstain and hold back, that defines this characteristic. Many times, we want to express ourselves in a negative way. The Prophet (pbuh) said, “The strong is not the one who overcomes the people by his strength, but the strong is the one who controls himself while in anger” (Bukhari). Strength is not determined by the ability to wrestle people down to the ground. A strong person is the one who is able to take hold of himself/herself when the anger is powerful. The Prophet (pbuh) said that if you are able to this, then you are a strong person. Sometimes we have rage and we want to steal or do something wrong, but then there is that conscience, that control, and that power to hold us back. This idea of control should be in charge of our desires and not the other way around.
Confidence
We have discussed the conscience, compassion, consideration, courage, control, and now the last one is confidence. What do we need to have confidence in? Oftentimes, we know what is right, but we cannot see the results immediately and therefore have doubt. We need to do the right thing at all times, whether we reap the benefit or not. We need to be confident that the right thing needs to be done all the time with no exceptions. Then, if we see the results, Alhamdulillah, and if we do not see the results, then it was actually to begin doing the right thing that was the most important.
A story can illustrate this point: A man was once given a surprise bonus of $1,000 by his company. While on his way home, he was planning to buy gifts for his family so that his wife and children would be happy. However, he was approached by a crying woman holding a young baby in her hands. She said, “Sir, my baby is dying! I need help. I cannot afford to buy any medication for my baby.” The man was so moved by this woman and baby that he put his hands in his pocket and gave her the entire $1,000. When his family found out, they told him he had been tricked by this woman. They made fun of him and told him that this was on the TV news. Instead of getting upset at the situation, the man said, “Alhamdulillah, this is the best news I have heard today. I gave the money to that woman because I didn’t want that baby to die. What really matters is the fact that the baby is not dying.”
The beauty of Islam is when Islam is implemented. We can say all of the nice things that we want, at the end of the day, it is not about what we say, but it is really about what we do. With every passing moment, we are constantly giving people clues about who we really are; we are constantly displaying what kind of character we have.
To conclude, consider this story: A man had a very nice car. He once saw a young boy walking around and admiring his car. So, the man asked the young boy, “Do you like it, son?” The boy responded, “Sir, I love it; this is the most beautiful car I have ever seen.” The man then told him that my brother gave it to me as a gift. The young boy immediately responded by saying, “Sir, I wish I could be like your brother.” Notice, he did not say that I wish I can have a brother like yours. This is what most of us would have said. Instead, he chose to say that I wish I was like your brother. This is a beautiful display of character. Remember, have a conscience along with compassion, consideration, courage, control, and confidence.
Having Good Character is Not a Goal, but a Process!
Having good character is not a goal, but having good character is a process. What is the difference? Any time we mix our goals with our means, we become stagnant, which is the recipe for disaster. For example, building a mosque – is it a goal or a means? It is a means. What happens is that we think that our goal is to build a mosque, and once the mosque is built, then what? Nothing. We already achieved our goal, which leads us to become very stagnant. Is giving zakah a goal or a means? It is a means, because the goal is to eliminate poverty. Is fasting in Ramadan, in itself, a goal or a means? It is a means to transform us into better people. Performing salah – is that a goal or a means? It is a means so that we become more purified.
When we set anything as a means, it becomes a process, such as having good character. It’s a process because there is always room for improvement. It requires determination and patience for us to constantly work on our bettering our character.

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Belief

“It is beyond my power to induce in you a belief in God. There are certain things which are self proved and certain which are not proved at all. The existence of God is like a geometrical axiom. It may be beyond our heart grasp. I shall not talk of an intellectual grasp. Intellectual attempts are more or less failures, as a rational explanation cannot give you the faith in a living God. For it is a thing beyond the grasp of reason. It transcends reason. There are numerous phenomena from which you can reason out the existence of God, but I shall not insult your intelligence by offering you a rational explanation of that type. I would have you brush aside all rational explanations and begin with a simple childlike faith in God. If I exist, God exists. With me it is a necessity of my being as it is with millions. They may not be able to talk about it, but from their life you can see that it is a part of their life. I am only asking you to restore the belief that has been undermined. In order to do so, you have to unlearn a lot of literature that dazzles your intelligence and throws you off your feet. Start with the faith which is also a token of humility and an admission that we know nothing, that we are less than atoms in this universe. We are less than atoms, I say, because the atom obeys the law of its being, whereas we in the insolence of our ignorance deny the law of nature. But I have no argument to address to those who have no faith.”

- Mahatma Ghandi

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Help Meena’s Dream Come True

My name is Meena Malik and I’m about to get the chance of turning my dream of studying and learning Arabic into a reality! I have been accepted into Bayyinah Institute’s 10 month long Arabic intensive, the DREAM program. I am planning on taking a year off from my undergraduate studies at UC Irvine and relocating to Texas in order to attend next year. You can check out the video below to see what the program is all about if you haven’t heard about it already!
Here’s the deal–I need your help in order to attend! Please give whatever you can, any and every donation counts! Please help me make my DREAM come true!
Why should you donate? Any help you give me will definitely come back to you! There are many blessings and rewards for donating in general and seeking knowledge, so just imagine the rewards you’d get for sponsoring a student of knowledge!
In addition to the reward that awaits you, there are many ways in which my studies in Arabic can help you and the whole community! I am very active in the local and even international Muslim community. Here are some things I am involved with…
  • Muslim Student Union at UC Irvine. I am currently serving as a Sisters’ Coordinator. I am also teaching  a tajweed and Qur’an class for a group of sisters.
  • IIOC’s Qur’an Institute (Masjid Omar al Farouk).
  • ICSGV’s Youth Group (Islamic Center of San Gabriel  Valley). I am currently on staff and am serving as   one of the Activities’ Coordinators and have given lectures this year on Qur’an  Appreciation, Salah, and Motivation.
  • Associate Writer for MuslimMatters.org.
  • Student of AlMaghrib Institute.
  • MSA West UCI Delegate.
  • Irvine 11 Campaign.
  • AlKalima writer, Muslim student magazine at UCI.
  • Muslimah Entertainment. I recently wrote a full 2-act original play and serve as a staff writer.
There are many organizations I am involved with and many ways for me to give back to the community. Learning Arabic will not only help me grow as a person, but it will also help me benefit the community in an even larger way in the future!
Please donate, help me make my DREAM come true!

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Apples.

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by Br. Salah ad-Din
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Today, Ustadh Hassan Elwan gave what I thought was a beautiful reflection that emphasized the importance of dhikr. I decided that I should just re-emphasize it by putting it in dialogue form and sending it out so we could all reflect upon it once more. Most of this is paraphrased and somewhat made more as a dialogue of what we were thinking and what he was saying, but I put it together as best as I could, please forgive me.

He said the following while sitting in his chair at a desk:

Teacher: “What is this table made of?” Touches table.

Class: “Wood.”

Teacher: “If I knock my fist upon this table, and out of it I brought forth an apple, what would you say? Would you say that it was a miracle?”

Class: “Yes.”

Teacher: “Undoubtedly, such a feat would be a miracle because it deviates from the norm. For me to bring forth an apple from this wooden table would be impossible. You would all say it’s a miracle! However, look outside. Do you see that tree outside? What grows out of it? It’s an apple tree.”

Class: “Apples.”

Teacher: “Where are the apples coming out from? The tree? The wood from the branches?”

Class: “Yes.”

Teacher: “Is this a miracle to you?”

Class: Silence.

Qur’an – 16:11

16:11

“He causes to grow for you thereby the crops, olives, palm trees, grapevines, and from all the fruits. Indeed in that is a sign for a people who give thought.”

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Ya Lateef!

“And how many a servant has sought to be honored by attaining something of the dunya – leadership, or status or anything that he may love – and Allah removed it from him out of His mercy so that it does not harm him in his deen. The slave then is persistent in his depression out of his ignorance and lack of awareness of His Rabb.

If he only knew what was kept hidden from him, and that Allah only kept it from him for his own betterment, he would have praised Allah, and thanked Him – for Allah is Kind, Loving, and Gentle to His close servants.”

- Imam as-Sa’di, from the explanation of the Name of Allah: Al-Lateef.

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The Event

[hijab flutter ~ Meena]

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